I think a dark grey sounds like it would work nicely.

As a designer the question is not a color question it is a safety and overall look after wear and tear question. Do you prep on that counter with a knife and for food prep? I would have two concerns; 1) would the stain be toxic when exposed to types of foods and food juices? 2) would the knife marks and wear & tear show the real color and how would that look over time? I have never seen butcher block countertops stained and suspect for a good reason. I have used butcher block in walnut to achieve a different darker look. But yours is the type of questions that a designer would then go to an truly experienced and knowledgable woodworking expert to have a discussion.

Perhaps there is a qualified woodworker who is willing to answer this?

Thank you Suzette. I rarely cut on mine now, but I sure wouldn't want it toxic. I would love to know what a qualified woodworker would say.

It is difficult to get red oak grey - there have been dilemma's posted here about it not going well. Definitely would need a woodwork specialist that can show you past results.

Many find that gray/white kitchens benefit from some natural wood - floor or butcher block counter. Otherwise the gray / white can be too cold. Also, gray look wood is very trendy and I've noticed in my area it is trending out. If you must stain, consider deepening the wood to a darker color if the light is not working with your other colors. The deeper color might blend better then natural, yet lend some warmth to the area.

Thank you. That might be a possibility. Right now, it doesn't look good with my new floors.